If it Ain't Broke (but IF it IS)
Hi there,
Tuesday April 13th and we're into another sunny day here in Toronto - loving this Spring thing! Happy happy joy joy!
LEO in the house which means we're pretty loyal folk (some non-LEO's might use the word "stubborn" but us LEO's know they just WISH they were summer babies!) *high fives Madonna*
With all my Spring cleaning of late, I've been doing some thinking in other areas too. The old saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it..." has been rolling around in my head. Ok, maybe not broke exactly but what if it just isn't working for ya anymore? Could be the way you style your hair, the set-up of your home office, or those friends that don't seem to be as positive as they used to be. We are definitely creatures of habit and even more so as we get older. Change is something that many of us avoid for as long as possible (ESPECIALLY the 40+ club).
I tend to hang onto friendships long after they should be set free. I give people the benefit of the doubt all the time. We're all human just trying to get through this sometimes crazy journey. I give them space when they need it, and am very supportive when pals go through rough times. However, take advantage of this monkey's generous heart, or take me for granted, and well, even I have a limit.
So this past week I walked away from a couple of people that I always thought would be part of my inner circle forever. Oh, I didn't do anything dramatic (sorry Leo-twin Madonna!) by throwing a tantrum, or writing a heated letter or making a rant-filled call. Nothing like that (sheesh - just thinking about it would stress me out!) Nope. Just quietly removed them from my heart. The sad part is that they won't even know it. They will believe we are still connected in some way.
On the good side, GREAT side actually, I have made many wonderful new friends this year. Lovely people with generous souls, who are positive, and supportive to all. Those are the people that I want to get to know better and share adventures with over and over. YOU know who YOU are!
Sometimes we stay in a friendship (or relationship, job, etc.) because the unknown is scarier than what we have now. Even if we're not as pleased with things as we could be. I've talked about "settling" before and how that's not healthy in the long run. All parts of your life should make you a happy camper! Not just one or two (though that's a super place to start).
This week I want you to review those things or people that aren't making you smile anymore. We'll discuss another time. Sometimes the most important step is just being aware that not everything should stay the same because it is easier than changing. It's a fabulous trait to be loyal but ONLY if works for you.
Linda
Tuesday April 13th and we're into another sunny day here in Toronto - loving this Spring thing! Happy happy joy joy!
LEO in the house which means we're pretty loyal folk (some non-LEO's might use the word "stubborn" but us LEO's know they just WISH they were summer babies!) *high fives Madonna*
With all my Spring cleaning of late, I've been doing some thinking in other areas too. The old saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it..." has been rolling around in my head. Ok, maybe not broke exactly but what if it just isn't working for ya anymore? Could be the way you style your hair, the set-up of your home office, or those friends that don't seem to be as positive as they used to be. We are definitely creatures of habit and even more so as we get older. Change is something that many of us avoid for as long as possible (ESPECIALLY the 40+ club).
I tend to hang onto friendships long after they should be set free. I give people the benefit of the doubt all the time. We're all human just trying to get through this sometimes crazy journey. I give them space when they need it, and am very supportive when pals go through rough times. However, take advantage of this monkey's generous heart, or take me for granted, and well, even I have a limit.
So this past week I walked away from a couple of people that I always thought would be part of my inner circle forever. Oh, I didn't do anything dramatic (sorry Leo-twin Madonna!) by throwing a tantrum, or writing a heated letter or making a rant-filled call. Nothing like that (sheesh - just thinking about it would stress me out!) Nope. Just quietly removed them from my heart. The sad part is that they won't even know it. They will believe we are still connected in some way.
On the good side, GREAT side actually, I have made many wonderful new friends this year. Lovely people with generous souls, who are positive, and supportive to all. Those are the people that I want to get to know better and share adventures with over and over. YOU know who YOU are!
Sometimes we stay in a friendship (or relationship, job, etc.) because the unknown is scarier than what we have now. Even if we're not as pleased with things as we could be. I've talked about "settling" before and how that's not healthy in the long run. All parts of your life should make you a happy camper! Not just one or two (though that's a super place to start).
This week I want you to review those things or people that aren't making you smile anymore. We'll discuss another time. Sometimes the most important step is just being aware that not everything should stay the same because it is easier than changing. It's a fabulous trait to be loyal but ONLY if works for you.
Linda
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