Housekeeping of the Heart
Hey there Gentle Reader,
The sun is shining here in beautiful Toronto, CANADA. Oh sweet country and people, you made us all proud during the Olympics. I see your w00t and raise ya a few more!
We've chatted about organizing and getting our homes and offices in order. However, sometimes you need to do this with your emotions too. I call it Housekeeping of the Heart. Looking over those relationships and connections in your life that no longer bring you joy. Yet they take up so much energy. Some people refer to them as energy vampires. Even the gang from Twilight wouldn't want them!
These names are there tucked in your address book - paper and online. Friends or acquaintances that give very little return for the emotional investment. Maybe it's that co-worker from your old job that is always calling to ask for advice about her love life, or career, or hair care products. You offer some suggestions and she disappears for a few weeks. Then suddenly she's back and emails you about the same issues. You gently ask if she was successful with any of your recommendations (that SHE asked for) and you are met with silence. The same dance over and over.
Other times you find with some pals that you are always the one who makes the plans, picks the movie, buys the coffee, etc. They always accept the invites but are never really present when you're together. Or worst, they check their voicemail or cell phone text messages every 15 minutes because they might be missing out on something exciting. I actually had a friend who did this more than a few times and eventually I just stopped calling.
Yet, being Canadian, that niceness factor kicks in. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or walk away from a history of friendship. Maybe they helped you move in 1999 or let you sleep on the couch that weekend that your apartment was being painted. However, you wouldn't do this to someone else so why is ok if they treat you this way? Come on Gentle Reader, we're being honest here. YOU deserve more!!
Now I understand how difficult it can be to make that move and walk away. Been there, done that, got the heartache. The heart does heal though.
However, I don't allow this in my life anymore. I am far too busy with life to let those in who don't appreciate it or me in the same way.
Only fun people will be accepted for citizenship in the land of Chartreuse Monkey!
Until tomorrow!
Linda
The sun is shining here in beautiful Toronto, CANADA. Oh sweet country and people, you made us all proud during the Olympics. I see your w00t and raise ya a few more!
We've chatted about organizing and getting our homes and offices in order. However, sometimes you need to do this with your emotions too. I call it Housekeeping of the Heart. Looking over those relationships and connections in your life that no longer bring you joy. Yet they take up so much energy. Some people refer to them as energy vampires. Even the gang from Twilight wouldn't want them!
These names are there tucked in your address book - paper and online. Friends or acquaintances that give very little return for the emotional investment. Maybe it's that co-worker from your old job that is always calling to ask for advice about her love life, or career, or hair care products. You offer some suggestions and she disappears for a few weeks. Then suddenly she's back and emails you about the same issues. You gently ask if she was successful with any of your recommendations (that SHE asked for) and you are met with silence. The same dance over and over.
Other times you find with some pals that you are always the one who makes the plans, picks the movie, buys the coffee, etc. They always accept the invites but are never really present when you're together. Or worst, they check their voicemail or cell phone text messages every 15 minutes because they might be missing out on something exciting. I actually had a friend who did this more than a few times and eventually I just stopped calling.
Yet, being Canadian, that niceness factor kicks in. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or walk away from a history of friendship. Maybe they helped you move in 1999 or let you sleep on the couch that weekend that your apartment was being painted. However, you wouldn't do this to someone else so why is ok if they treat you this way? Come on Gentle Reader, we're being honest here. YOU deserve more!!
Now I understand how difficult it can be to make that move and walk away. Been there, done that, got the heartache. The heart does heal though.
However, I don't allow this in my life anymore. I am far too busy with life to let those in who don't appreciate it or me in the same way.
Only fun people will be accepted for citizenship in the land of Chartreuse Monkey!
Until tomorrow!
Linda
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