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Hiya Gentle Reader,
Chilly day here in Toronto but the sun is shining. February 1st and we're here. That's a great start to the month don't you think?
You know, looking over the almost 5 decades of my life, I am amazed at how many YEARS I spent settling for 2nd or 3rd best of everything. Employment, material things, and even relationships. I tended to think I only deserved "so much" in the world and never ever thought of reaching higher. So I "settled" for a lesser quality life. Kind of like just existing with no real sparkle. That's not good at all! Not good at all!
When you tell the universe that you'll accept lower standards then that's exactly what you'll get. I too had settled for any relationship in my 20's and 30's for fear of not having anyone. Trust me when I say that it is better to be single, surrounded by wonderful friends (and pets!) who love and support you rather than being in a relationship for the sake of not having to show up at a movie or wedding alone. Now I realize that Linda at 48 is VERY different than Linda at 28 but it took a honours degree from the School of Hard Knocks to have it sink in! Once you learn this lesson, you can never go back. YOU are worth so much more.
With jobs it is another story. With the economic climate these days, you may need to take the first employment opportunity that allows you to pay the rent, put food on the table, and hopefully have some coinage left over for fun things too. However, too many of us getting comfortable in our jobs and don't want to take the risk of upgrading our skills, sending out resumes, or asking friends of friends if there might be opportunities in other areas of your company. We settle for comfortable rather than being excited about our work. About the possibility of having a higher income or learning new things or meeting dynamic people is out there if only we reach a little higher.
The whole thing here is quality over quantity. You could buy a trendy bag or purse each month or save up for a fabulous classic style that will last a decade or more (thinking COACH here). The same money is spent but the outcome is completely opposite. One fills that instant gratification but in a year, you own many purses that may be outdated or no longer bring you joy. OR you could save up for that one splurge and thrill every time you carry it.
Recently I bought myself some Snow Leopard sequin Converse shoes. They were twice the price of the regular Converse sneakers. However, when I saw and touched them, I knew that no other pair would measure up. I am worth it so decided that these were THE SHOES to get! Bought them and they still make me giddy many months later.
What is one thing in your life that you know you're settling for less than what you should have in this world? Today, take those baby steps to get to the higher level of living that you so richly deserve.
Linda
Chilly day here in Toronto but the sun is shining. February 1st and we're here. That's a great start to the month don't you think?
You know, looking over the almost 5 decades of my life, I am amazed at how many YEARS I spent settling for 2nd or 3rd best of everything. Employment, material things, and even relationships. I tended to think I only deserved "so much" in the world and never ever thought of reaching higher. So I "settled" for a lesser quality life. Kind of like just existing with no real sparkle. That's not good at all! Not good at all!
When you tell the universe that you'll accept lower standards then that's exactly what you'll get. I too had settled for any relationship in my 20's and 30's for fear of not having anyone. Trust me when I say that it is better to be single, surrounded by wonderful friends (and pets!) who love and support you rather than being in a relationship for the sake of not having to show up at a movie or wedding alone. Now I realize that Linda at 48 is VERY different than Linda at 28 but it took a honours degree from the School of Hard Knocks to have it sink in! Once you learn this lesson, you can never go back. YOU are worth so much more.
With jobs it is another story. With the economic climate these days, you may need to take the first employment opportunity that allows you to pay the rent, put food on the table, and hopefully have some coinage left over for fun things too. However, too many of us getting comfortable in our jobs and don't want to take the risk of upgrading our skills, sending out resumes, or asking friends of friends if there might be opportunities in other areas of your company. We settle for comfortable rather than being excited about our work. About the possibility of having a higher income or learning new things or meeting dynamic people is out there if only we reach a little higher.
The whole thing here is quality over quantity. You could buy a trendy bag or purse each month or save up for a fabulous classic style that will last a decade or more (thinking COACH here). The same money is spent but the outcome is completely opposite. One fills that instant gratification but in a year, you own many purses that may be outdated or no longer bring you joy. OR you could save up for that one splurge and thrill every time you carry it.
Recently I bought myself some Snow Leopard sequin Converse shoes. They were twice the price of the regular Converse sneakers. However, when I saw and touched them, I knew that no other pair would measure up. I am worth it so decided that these were THE SHOES to get! Bought them and they still make me giddy many months later.
What is one thing in your life that you know you're settling for less than what you should have in this world? Today, take those baby steps to get to the higher level of living that you so richly deserve.
Linda
We wanna see pictures of those shoes!!
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This really struck a chord with me considering the way that my life has been in the last year. Being on the lookout for love and happiness I've told myself that I'm not gonna settle for someone that doesn't completely blow my mind. I'm not gonna just settle for sweet and kind because I don't want to hurt someones feelings. I'm not gonna settle for looks because its superficial and doesn't complete a person. I'm worth some happiness and a whole lot of love and I shouldn't have to settle because I'm lonely or tired of looking, so I've promised myself that that isn't going to happen.
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